Developing a Strong Will
Many people believe that if they had more of this mysterious thing called will, they could make their lives better. With greater self-control, we will all eat well, exercise regularly, refrain from drugs and alcohol, save for retirement, no longer hesitate, and achieve all sorts of extraordinary goals.
What is a will?
Willpower is the ability to make conscious decisions. We all have free will and make our own decisions, even if they have to obey the orders of others.
There is no desire for flowers. Animals have a certain will. People have it easier because they think better and can make informed decisions.
If something can be done “at will”, it means that you can act independently at any time. In the case of obstacles, more willpower is needed.
A person may be
described as “stubborn” if he does not readily comply with
the demands or orders of others. They do whatever they want, breaking
rules and laws, without worrying about what others might think
(except perhaps enjoying a sense of control).
Desire is related to
desire. If you really don’t want something, your desire to succeed is
less likely. This is reflected in the saying “A weak heart never
wins a beautiful woman”. On the other hand, when you have a
strong desire, it is more likely to last.
What is a Willpower ?
Willpower is the
motivation to exercise. A strong-willed person will enforce his
decisions even in the presence of strong resistance or other
conflicting indicators. A person with little willpower will easily
It takes willpower to
get what you want, whether you are doing something or doing other
things for you. To be successful, you first need to know what you
want. Then you have to be determined to apply it even in extreme
Will and power are
closely related, because to exercise will mean to exercise power.
Powerful people often have what appears to be a strong will, although
this is often the result of trust that creates power, not directly
from power. In return people with strong forts increase their power
How do you develop
Give your cravings a break
by deciding ahead of time – plan your menu for the entire week and
even prepare some meals in advance. How to avoid impulsive stops at
fast food restaurants on the way home from work. Before going to a
party or restaurant, decide how much and how much alcohol you have to
drink. Don’t try to squeeze exercise into what’s left at the end of
the day. Instead, schedule it on your calendar at the beginning of
each week or plan to go with a friend so you’re more likely to meet
When trying to stop
drinking, stay away from events where drinking is the main activity.
When your willpower is tested, try to avoid doing what you want to do
or distract yourself with something else that doesn’t stop you from
achieving your goals.
Strengthen your Will
Mindfulness meditation can
improve your self-control and help you act on purpose rather than
habit or desire. Physical and mental fatigue can reduce your will
When you hit a milestone,
celebrate with something that doesn’t hold you back. Take a walk in
the park after passing a tough test. Buy a new dress after losing 20
pounds. Get a pedicure after running 3 miles.
Get help from others.
Join a group of runners. Find a hiking companion. Plan a meal with
Feed Your Brain
Skipping meals is bad
for your brain and even worse when you want to learn how to improve
your will power. The brain is our decision-making muscle, and its
ability to give us the will to make the right decisions depends on
our ability to receive adequate nutrition.
We need to eat
regularly, ideally low glycemic index foods, healthy proteins,
vegetables and complex carbohydrates in order to avoid glucose levels
(combined with sweets and simple carbohydrates) that drop
Use of Dark Chocolate
to Increase Energy
Sometimes we find
ourselves in a situation where we need to take a quick decision and
find it difficult if we have not learned to increase our will power.
A piece of dark chocolate provides a small boost of energy that helps
our brain make decisions.
Good Night And Sleep
Rest lowers the body’s
need for glucose and enables us to make better use of what we have.
A reasonable rest period is usually 7 to 8 hours per night for an
adult and 10 to 12 hours per night for a child.
10 Minute Meditation
Meditation will give
you the fastest results of all the exercises listed. By meditating,
you train the brain to focus and resist the urge to wander. Research
has shown that after just 2-3 days of meditation for 10 minutes, your
brain will be able to focus better, have more energy, and be less
To get started with
10-minute mindfulness, check out this online program. It gives you
all the benefits of mediation as well as a simple exercise specially
designed for beginners.
Work on your Posture
To test whether
willpower can be strengthened, researchers asked a group of
participants to work on their posture over a 2-week period. Whenever
he was caught bowing down, he had to sit up straight and correct
himself. This simple exercise greatly improved his stamina in
various such tests.
To get started, set your position while bending over at work or at home. It sounds so simple, but it takes willpower to stand up straight. Every time you do this, you are essentially doing a “repetition” of your own free will.